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Chapter Overview
Chapter 1: AudiobookHub Recommendation
Chapter 2: — The Pop Quiz: “Are You Sexually Cliterate?”
Chapter 3: — Core Beliefs: “She Comes First” as a Sexual Paradigm
Chapter 4: — The Map: Vulva vs. Vagina and the “18-Part” Clitoral Network
Chapter 5: — Myth-Busting: Why Penetration Often Misses the Target
Chapter 6: — The Plot of Arousal: Foreplay, Coreplay, Moreplay
Chapter 7: — Hygiene, Scent, and Safety: Confidence Without Recklessness
Chapter 8: — Technique Framework: Position, The First Kiss, and Establishing Rhythm
Chapter 9: — Building Tension: Tongue Variety + Hands and Fingers as a Team
Chapter 10: — Preorgasm and Orgasm: Pressure, Control, and Finishing the Sentence
Chapter 11: — Moreplay, Multiple Orgasms, and Seamless Transitions to Intercourse
Chapter 12: — The Cheat Sheet: Routines, Troubleshooting, and Special Scenarios
Description
She Comes First is a technique-and-philosophy guide that argues the most reliable path to female orgasm is sustained clitoral stimulation—especially through cunnilingus. Ian Kerner, Ph.D., writes as both clinician and practitioner, pushing readers to abandon penetration-first assumptions, learn accurate vulvar/clitoral anatomy, and focus on timing, pressure, and communication.
The book is organized around three layers: (1) the “why” of female pleasure—dispelling myths, explaining clitoral structure and the sexual response cycle; (2) the “how”—stepwise oral techniques, positions, and coordination of tongue, hands, and fingers; and (3) “putting it together”—routines, troubleshooting, safety, hygiene, and adaptations for real-life scenarios. The tone is direct, rule-based, and designed to be practiced, not just read.
Who Should Listen
- Partners who want a structured, anatomy-informed approach to cunnilingus and clitoral stimulation.
- Couples trying to reduce orgasm disparity by improving communication, pacing, and technique.
- Readers who prefer a “skills + mindset” manual that treats oral sex as a complete act, not an add-on.