If You're Curious About These Questions...
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- Have you ever wondered why even the most well-intentioned people can still hold deep-seated biases they aren’t aware of?
- What if the secret to being a truly 'good person' lies in trading your perfectionism for a surprising new mindset called being 'good-ish'?
- Are you curious about the invisible 'tailwinds' that shape our success and how you can use them to help others rise?
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Key Takeaways from The Person You Mean to Be
- Discover why even the most open-minded individuals hold unconscious biases, driven by the fact that our brains process 99.999 percent of information without us realizing it.
- Understand how adopting a growth mindset can help you overcome stubborn, deeply ingrained prejudices and become more open to learning about people different from yourself.
- Learn how to uncover your own hidden prejudices by using rapid decision-making tools like the Implicit Association Test, which often reveals startling racial and gender biases.
- Discover why people naturally become defensive and deny their societal privileges, fearing that acknowledging their advantages will make their hard work and achievements seem unearned.
- Master the art of discussing privilege by first validating a person's accomplishments, a proven psychological strategy that lowers defensiveness and encourages honest reflection.
The Person You Mean to Be — Full Chapter Overview
Chapter 1: Recommendation
Chapter 2: Having a growth mindset means embracing learning, yet entrenched prejudices are often hard to overcome.
Chapter 3: We can measure unconscious bias today, and the outcomes are typically disappointing.
Chapter 4: People often downplay their privileges unless offered something positive to focus on as a reassurance.
Chapter 5: Unconscious biases are often subtle and widespread, and it takes effort to overcome them.
Chapter 6: Privileged individuals wield the most power to counter unconscious bias and uplift minorities.
Chapter 7: Developing racial identity awareness takes time, and it’s crucial not to give up too soon along the way.
Chapter 8: Pretending to be color-blind isn’t helpful, nor is categorizing people in any way at all whatsoever.
Chapter 9: To build inclusion at companies, hear every voice and distribute credit honestly too.
The Person You Mean to Be Summary & Overview
The Person You Mean to Be (2018) offers an accessible guide to the complex world of unconscious biases. Unconscious biases are the assumptions and associations we all have about people who are of a different gender, race, sexual orientation or class than we are. Author Dolly Chugh explains how these unconscious biases work and what we can do to overcome them.
Who Should Listen to The Person You Mean to Be?
- Students of human behavior and gender studies
- Anyone who thinks they aren’t prejudiced
- People who want to be more open-minded
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