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Worthy of Her Trust

What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back

Stephen Arterburn & Jason B. Martinkus

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Question 1 of 8
According to the author's personal experience and the book's premise, what is required to rebuild trust after infidelity?
  • A. A one-time, full confession and a commitment to never repeat the mistake.
  • B. A daily choice to lean into conflict and actively earn trust.
  • C. A period of physical separation to allow emotions to settle.
  • D. Convincing the betrayed spouse to attend individual therapy.
Question 2 of 8
Why does the author argue that the idea 'time heals everything and rebuilds trust' is a myth?
  • A. Because time only makes the betrayed spouse more resentful if they are not in therapy.
  • B. Because focusing on the passage of time distracts the husband from his spiritual commitments.
  • C. Because memories and associated hurt do not disappear and can be brought back entirely by a trigger.
  • D. Because trust can actually be rebuilt instantly if the confession is completely honest.
Question 3 of 8
According to the book, what is the likely outcome of a wife agreeing to more frequent or exciting sex in an attempt to stop her husband from acting out?
  • A. It successfully redirects his physical desires back to the marriage.
  • B. It makes matters worse by turning the wife into an object and delaying true healing.
  • C. It accelerates the healing process by fostering physical and emotional intimacy.
  • D. It builds trust by showing the husband that his wife is willing to compromise.
Question 4 of 8
How should a husband view his wife's forgiveness during the trust-building process?
  • A. As a benefit primarily for the wife, while he must focus on becoming someone worthy of it.
  • B. As the final step that proves trust has been completely restored.
  • C. As an immediate requirement before any couples counseling can be effective.
  • D. As a guarantee that she will stop checking his phone and emails.
Question 5 of 8
What is the danger of practicing 'translucency' instead of full transparency when communicating with a betrayed spouse?
  • A. It places too much emotional burden on the accountability partners.
  • B. The spouse will sense something is missing and fill in the gaps with suspicions worse than the truth.
  • C. It forces the spouse to become overly controlling regarding household finances.
  • D. It causes the husband to lose his sense of individuality and privacy too quickly.
Question 6 of 8
Which of the following is considered a nonnegotiable truth regarding a husband's behavior at the workplace?
  • A. He must disclose his past infidelity to his human resources department.
  • B. He should invite his wife to his workplace weekly so she feels comfortable with his coworkers.
  • C. He should strictly avoid alone time with female colleagues, even if it means finding a new job.
  • D. He must only communicate with female colleagues via email and never in person.
Question 7 of 8
In the context of rebuilding a marriage after infidelity, what does 'finding restitution' mean?
  • A. Compensating the wife for the injury caused by giving up personal freedom and allowing her to be skeptical.
  • B. Paying for the spouse's individual counseling sessions out of a separate bank account.
  • C. Taking the spouse on a second honeymoon to create new, positive memories.
  • D. Making a formal apology to the spouse's extended family and close friends.
Question 8 of 8
When applying the seven steps to mending wounds, why is it important to identify 'touch points'?
  • A. To figure out which geographic locations the couple should permanently move away from.
  • B. To determine exactly which accountability partner should be called during a crisis.
  • C. To help the husband remember the positive aspects of the marriage before the infidelity occurred.
  • D. To recognize current situations or actions that have associations with past pains and could trigger them again.

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Worthy of Her Trust Summary & Overview

Worth of Her Trust (2014) is a guide for men looking to restore trust in a marriage damaged by infidelity. With exercises and tools based on counseling techniques, it offers practical advice for rebuilding connection and intimacy – and hope that, with sincere effort, even the most difficult challenges can be overcome.

Who Should Listen to Worthy of Her Trust?

  • Men whose relationships with their wives have broken down
  • Men seeking to understand how they can rebuild trust after infidelity
  • Men looking to proactively sidestep marital problems

About the Author: Stephen Arterburn & Jason B. Martinkus

Jason B. Martinkus is president of Redemptive Living, an organization that counsels and aids men struggling with sexual integrity issues. In addition to this counseling work, he serves as a minister and speaker at churches and retreats. Martinkus holds a master's degree in counseling.

Stephen Arterburn is the founder of New Life Ministries and host of the popular New Life Live counseling talk show. Arterburn also founded the Women of Faith conferences, which have drawn over 4 million attendees. A sought-after public speaker and author, he’s been featured on the likes of Oprah and Rolling Stone. His other best-selling books include Every Man’s Battle and Lose It for Life.

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