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- Have you ever wondered why couples who are deeply in love often struggle to keep their sexual spark alive over time?
- What if you could transform your relationship’s "erotic climate" by understanding the hidden emotional triggers that shut down desire?
- Are you curious about the surprising psychological secret that allows long-term partners to maintain intense intimacy, even after decades together?
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Key Takeaways from Love Worth Making
- Discover why 'friction and fantasy' are not enough for great intimacy, and learn how to unlock the hidden world of shared sexuality built on gratitude and awe.
- Understand the intense emotional roots of your honest sexual self, and see why the best intimate experiences often mirror the profound, opposing emotions of early childhood bonding.
- Learn why embracing a healthy level of selfishness and childhood narcissism in the bedroom is actually essential for fueling passion and alluring your partner.
- Find out how to banish Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) that cause bedroom paranoia, allowing you to focus on genuine pleasure instead of self-criticism.
- Master the art of 'simmering' to organically cultivate sexual tension and maintain an erotic connection, rather than relying on ineffective intimacy schedules.
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Love Worth Making
The Sexual Self & True Arousal+
Eradicating Work from Sex+
Desire & Pursuit+
Untangling Sex Knots+
Standing Your Ground+
Healing Deep Disconnections+
Overcoming Mental Blocks+
Quiz — Test Your Understanding
Question 1 of 7
What is a key insight about achieving true sexual arousal according to the author?
Question 2 of 7
Why might a partner complaining about a lack of 'passion' actually be identifying a lack of 'sexual selfishness'?
Question 3 of 7
What does the technique of 'simmering' involve?
Question 4 of 7
In the context of the book, what defines a 'sex knot'?
Question 5 of 7
What does it mean for a partner to learn how to 'differentiate' within a relationship?
Question 6 of 7
How do 'remote causes' often manifest in long-term relationships facing sexual disruption?
Question 7 of 7
How does the author recommend dealing with Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) during sex?
Love Worth Making — Full Chapter Overview
- 1Recommendation
- 21 — True arousal becomes possible when you learn to nurture your sexual self.
- 32 — Sex should never feel like a chore.
- 43 — Women need to feel pursued to feel desired.
- 54 — Recognizing sex knots helps couples reconnect and find a new approach.
- 65 — When both partners hold their ground, they can navigate the uncertainty of relationship change.
- 76 — Erotic feelings come back when partners feel worthy of each other’s love.
- 87 — Final summary
Love Worth Making Summary & Overview
Love Worth Making (2018) is a guide to enhancing sex and intimacy within committed partnerships. Drawing from real-life examples of sex and couples therapy sessions, it shows how both daily life and trauma affect our sexual feelings. It takes an emotional approach to untangling sexual problems and offers ideas on maintaining an erotic climate in a relationship.
Who Should Listen to Love Worth Making?
- Partners who love each other but are struggling to keep desire alive
- New couples who want to learn how to sustain their sexual relationship
- Anyone interested in the emotional side of sexual connection
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