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Better Sex Through Mindfulness

How Women Can Cultivate Desire

Lori A. Brotto

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Question 1 of 8
According to the text, what is the most common sexual complaint among women globally, and how do most women handle the distress it causes?
  • A. Inability to orgasm; they frequently consult sex therapists for treatment.
  • B. Sexual pain; they usually rely on prescription medications to manage the symptoms.
  • C. Low sexual desire; they rarely seek professional help, often keeping it to themselves or turning to the internet.
  • D. Distraction during sex; they typically discuss the issue openly with their partners to find a solution.
Question 2 of 8
How do personal beliefs and attitudes impact a woman's experience of sexual desire, according to the book?
  • A. Beliefs have little impact compared to physical and hormonal factors.
  • B. Women who believe sexual desire naturally decreases with age are twice as likely to experience low sex drive.
  • C. Viewing sex primarily as a reproductive act significantly increases a woman's sex drive.
  • D. Positive thinking alone can completely cure clinical sexual dysfunction without the need for therapy.
Question 3 of 8
Why does the author argue that 'multitasking' is detrimental to sexual enjoyment?
  • A. Multitasking exhausts the body physically, leaving no energy for sexual activity.
  • B. The brain cannot actually multitask but instead rapidly switches between tasks, pulling attention away from the present moment and reducing sexual response.
  • C. Multitasking causes the brain to release stress hormones that permanently damage sexual organs.
  • D. People who multitask tend to view sex solely as another task on their to-do list, removing all emotional connection.
Question 4 of 8
When practicing mindfulness meditation, what should a person do when distracting thoughts inevitably creep in?
  • A. Immediately stop the meditation and try again when the mind is completely blank.
  • B. Forcefully push the thoughts away to achieve a completely clear and empty mind.
  • C. Observe the thoughts as passing sensations without engaging with their content.
  • D. Analyze the root cause of the thoughts to resolve them before continuing to meditate.
Question 5 of 8
What key lesson are women meant to learn from the exercise of mindfully eating a raisin?
  • A. That eating certain foods can act as an aphrodisiac to boost low sexual desire.
  • B. That paying intense, focused attention can reveal a rich sensory experience that is often missed when operating on 'autopilot.'
  • C. That slowing down digestive processes physically increases blood flow to the genital region.
  • D. That distracting the brain with food can help women ignore negative thoughts during intimacy.
Question 6 of 8
What does the concept of 'sexual concordance' refer to, and how do men and women typically compare in this area?
  • A. It refers to the synchronization of physical and mental sexual arousal; men typically have higher concordance than women.
  • B. It refers to the ability to reach climax quickly; women typically have higher concordance than men.
  • C. It refers to the emotional connection between partners; men and women generally have equal levels of concordance.
  • D. It refers to the physical changes in the body during arousal; women typically have higher concordance than men.
Question 7 of 8
How does mindful self-exploration, such as using a hand-held mirror, help women who feel shame about their bodies?
  • A. It trains the brain to only focus on the positive physical sensations and completely block out any neutral or negative ones.
  • B. It acts as a substitute for partnered sex, eliminating the anxiety of performing for someone else.
  • C. It allows women to tune into and understand their own arousal and sensations without the pressure to reach orgasm.
  • D. It permanently alters the physical structure of the brain to stop producing stress hormones.
Question 8 of 8
How can mindfulness therapy help women who experience chronic genital pain, such as provoked vestibulodynia (PVD)?
  • A. By teaching women to completely dissociate from their bodies so they no longer feel any physical sensations.
  • B. By encouraging women to tune into the physical sensations of the pain rather than pushing them away, which weakens the emotional distress reaction.
  • C. By using deep breathing to physically numb the nerve endings in the genital region.
  • D. By distracting the brain with complex cognitive tasks during sex so the pain is ignored.

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Better Sex Through Mindfulness Summary & Overview

Focusing on women, Better Sex Through Mindfulness (2018) explores why stress and a lack of attentiveness are the root causes for many sexual problems, and shows how mindfulness can help all women be more satisfied, both inside and outside the bedroom.

Who Should Listen to Better Sex Through Mindfulness?

  • Women struggling to stay in the moment during sex
  • Women who experience physical or psychological pain as a result of sex
  • Sexual partners who want to improve their sex lives through mindfulness

About the Author: Lori A. Brotto

Dr. Lori Brotto is a Canadian psychologist and a recognized expert in the field of female sexual disorders. She pioneered the use of mindfulness as a technique to treat sexual disorders and improve women’s sex lives.

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