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- Have you ever wondered how to tell the difference between a colleague having a bad day and a truly toxic 'asshole' who is sabotaging your workplace?
- What if you could master the psychological art of 'asshole-proofing' your life and reclaim your sanity from even the most hostile bosses?
- Are you curious about the hidden traps that cause good people to start behaving badly, and the secret to ensuring you don't become one of them?
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Key Takeaways from The Asshole Survival Guide
- Understand how to accurately identify toxic individuals by focusing on how they make you feel, and discover why occasional aggressive behavior can sometimes be a calculated leadership tactic.
- Learn how to spot and overcome 'asshole blindness,' a dangerous psychological trap where the sunk cost fallacy causes you to accept ongoing workplace mistreatment as normal.
- Discover why escaping a toxic environment doesn't always mean quitting your job, and find out how to proactively relocate within your organization to leave a bad boss behind.
- Find out why scientific studies show that rude behavior is as contagious as the common cold, and learn how to implement strategic physical distancing to protect your own attitude.
- Master the cognitive behavioral technique of reframing to mentally neutralize hostile situations, allowing you to protect your morale and strip difficult colleagues of their power over you.
Learning Tools
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Mind Map
The Asshole Survival Guide
Defining the Asshole
Core traits
The Maya Angelou rule
Temporary vs. Permanent
Asshole Blindness
Habituation
The Danger
Sunk cost fallacy
The Escape
The Contagion Effect
Infection risk
Physiological impact
Protective measure
Psychological Defenses
Reframing
Reappraisal
Mindset shift
Confrontation Strategies
Preparation
Calm confrontation
Aggressive confrontation
Self-Awareness
The blind spot
Perception alignment
The wealth trap
The Asshole Test
Conversation dominance
Question ratio
Lack of interest
Quiz — Test Your Understanding
Question 1 of 7
According to the book, what is a key distinction between a 'temporary' and a 'continual' asshole?
The Asshole Survival Guide — Full Chapter Overview
Chapter 1: Recommendation
Chapter 2: Assholes are those who provoke emotional unease, and some are worse than others.
Chapter 3: Leave assholes behind to avoid becoming accustomed to their mistreatment.
Chapter 4: If you want to avoid 'catching' their behavior, maintain a safe distance from assholes.
Chapter 5: Reframe asshole behavior as something that really isn’t your fault.
Chapter 6: Before confronting an asshole, gather evidence of their behavior and assess how best to proceed.
Chapter 7: You might be an asshole, especially if you’re wealthy, so be sure to practice self-awareness.
The Asshole Survival Guide Summary & Overview
The Asshole Survival Guide (2017) is a guide to how you can identify and deal with the assholes of the world. People who treat others badly come in all shapes, sizes and levels of awfulness, and the author provides the tools we need to recognize them, fight back and avoid becoming assholes ourselves.
Who Should Listen to The Asshole Survival Guide?
- Workers with a hostile boss or colleague
- Readers interested in social or cognitive psychology
- Managers who want to create a happier work environment
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