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How to be Love(d)

Simple Truths for Going Easier on Yourself, Embracing Imperfection & Loving Your Way to a Better Life

Humble the Poet

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Question 1 of 7
According to the book, what is the main problem with treating love like a 'finish line' or destination?
  • A. It makes us believe that achieving it will permanently solve our happiness, leading to 'destination addiction.'
  • B. It forces us to rush into relationships without getting to know our partners deeply.
  • C. It causes us to prioritize romantic love over the love we have for our friends and family.
  • D. It makes us overly critical of our partner's flaws and imperfections.
Question 2 of 7
How does the author distinguish 'Big L' love from 'Small L' love?
  • A. Big L love is reserved only for romantic partners, while Small L love applies to friends and family.
  • B. Big L love requires regular, deliberate effort to sustain, whereas Small L love is about immediate gratification.
  • C. Big L love happens instantly when you meet a soulmate, while Small L love takes years to develop.
  • D. Big L love is a destination you eventually reach, while Small L love is the journey getting there.
Question 3 of 7
What does the author mean by comparing love to an 'ocean' rather than a 'telephone line'?
  • A. Love is overwhelming and can easily drown you if you are not careful with your boundaries.
  • B. Love requires constant communication to stay afloat in difficult times.
  • C. Love comes from deep within you and surrounds you, rather than being a direct, exclusive connection caused by one specific person.
  • D. Love is constantly changing with the tides, meaning your feelings for someone will naturally fluctuate over time.
Question 4 of 7
How does the book address the concern that prioritizing your relationship with yourself is selfish?
  • A. It argues that a healthy amount of selfishness is necessary to survive in modern society.
  • B. It states that truly selfish people expect others to meet their needs, while self-love teaches you to meet your own needs so you can be more generous.
  • C. It claims that selfishness is only harmful when it involves lying to others to protect your own ego.
  • D. It suggests that prioritizing yourself temporarily is fine, as long as you eventually put your partner first.
Question 5 of 7
What role does the 'ego' play in our ability to experience love?
  • A. The ego protects us from getting our hearts broken by setting healthy boundaries.
  • B. The ego helps us identify our core values so we can find a compatible partner.
  • C. The ego craves superficial validation and prevents us from accessing deep, 'Big L' love by focusing on 'I' instead of 'we.'
  • D. The ego is the primary source of our self-love and must be nurtured before we can love others.
Question 6 of 7
According to Humble the Poet, what is the 'opposite of love'?
  • A. Apathy
  • B. Perfection
  • C. Ego
  • D. Rejection
Question 7 of 7
How should we view conflict and unpleasant emotions within a relationship?
  • A. They are signs that the relationship has reached a dead end and should be terminated.
  • B. They are unnatural occurrences caused by a lack of honest communication.
  • C. They should be ignored or suppressed so the relationship can remain peaceful.
  • D. They are natural parts of love that provide an opportunity to assert individuality and negotiate boundaries.

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How to be Love(d) Summary & Overview

How to be Love(d) (2022) teaches you how to transform your thoughts and actions to give, receive, and experience more love in life. Full of relatable stories and actionable advice, this guide will teach you how to rid yourself of useless programming, embrace imperfection, and honor your progress – so you can better love yourself and others.

Who Should Listen to How to be Love(d)?

  • Anyone going through a breakup
  • People looking to improve their romantic, platonic, or family relationships
  • Fans of the author’s art and music

About the Author: Humble the Poet

Humble The Poet, also known as Kanwer Singh, is a Canadian-born artist, rapper, and social media personality. A former elementary school teacher, his books Unlearn and Things No One Else Can Teach Us have become international best sellers. His work has been featured in the New York Times, BuzzFeed, Vogue, Rolling Stone, and Huffington Post among others.

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