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You Say More Than You Think

A 7-Day Plan for Using the New Body Language to Get What You Want

Janine Driver, Mariska van Aalst

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You Say More Than You Think
Rethinking Confidence+
Baselines & Behavioral Shifts+
The Belly Button Rule+
Power Zones & Positioning+
The Dangerous Four Micro-expressions+

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Question 1 of 8
What is the author's primary critique of common body language advice, such as 'always maintain eye contact' or interpreting crossed arms strictly as defensiveness?
  • A. It fails to account for cultural differences in global communication.
  • B. It oversimplifies human expression and ignores the crucial role of context.
  • C. It focuses too much on facial expressions rather than overall posture.
  • D. It requires too much conscious practice to perform naturally in high-stakes situations.
Question 2 of 8
According to the text, what is the specific formula for effectively approaching body language?
  • A. Observation + Imitation = Connection
  • B. Posture + Positioning = Power
  • C. Baseline + Behavior = Belief
  • D. Accuracy + Application = Attitude
Question 3 of 8
Why is it essential to establish a person's 'baseline' behavior before analyzing their body language?
  • A. It allows you to recognize meaningful deviations and shifts in their behavior.
  • B. It helps you perfectly mirror their gestures to build immediate rapport.
  • C. It determines whether they are naturally an introvert or an extrovert.
  • D. It reveals which of their three main power zones is the most dominant.
Question 4 of 8
What does the 'Belly Button Rule' primarily reveal about a person during an interaction?
  • A. Their baseline level of anxiety in social settings.
  • B. Their genuine focus, interest, and true intentions.
  • C. Whether they are naturally dominant or submissive.
  • D. Their level of physical fitness and posture habits.
Question 5 of 8
Which of the following correctly identifies the three 'power zones' mentioned in the text?
  • A. The eyes, the hands, and the feet
  • B. The head, the chest, and the knees
  • C. The shoulders, the torso, and the hips
  • D. The throat, the belly button, and the lower body
Question 6 of 8
What does the 'fig leaf' stance (hands clasped in front of the lower body) typically signal, based on the primal instincts of power zones?
  • A. Supreme confidence and authority
  • B. Respectfulness and professional courtesy
  • C. Insecurity and unconscious protection of a vulnerability point
  • D. Active listening and deep engagement
Question 7 of 8
Which of the 'Dangerous Four' micro-expressions is described as a slight, uneven smirk conveying moral superiority, and is noted as a strong predictor of divorce?
  • A. Disguised Disgust
  • B. Killer Contempt
  • C. Fleeting Anger
  • D. Psychopathic Happiness
Question 8 of 8
If you observe the micro-expression of 'Fleeting Anger' during a conversation, what is the recommended method for responding?
  • A. Subtly reduce eye contact to avoid direct confrontation.
  • B. Use the QWQ (Question, Wait, Question) method to invite a candid response.
  • C. Adopt a wider stance and expose your throat to assert dominance.
  • D. Reposition yourself to the individual’s right side to rebuild trust.

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You Say More Than You Think Summary & Overview

You Say More Than You Think (2011) reveals the hidden language your body speaks before you even open your mouth. Your success in every interaction – from first dates to high-stakes negotiations – depends far more on unconscious signals than you realize. Master these secret codes of human behavior and you'll gain an almost supernatural ability to read and influence anyone you meet.

Who Should Listen to You Say More Than You Think?

  • Professionals looking to enhance communication and negotiation skills
  • Leaders aiming to strengthen their influence and social connections
  • Individuals curious about nonverbal cues and body language insights

About the Author: Janine Driver, Mariska van Aalst

Janine Driver is a former ATF investigator and founder of the Body Language Institute in Washington, DC. A regular contributor to Psychology Today and Men's Health, she's trained elite law enforcement worldwide and appears frequently on major TV networks. Her expertise helps organizations like Coca-Cola and the FBI decode nonverbal communication.

Mariska van Aalst is a publishing industry veteran and professional ghostwriter. Her collaborative works have been translated into over 25 languages, with multiple New York Times bestsellers to her credit.

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