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We Over Me

The Counterintuitive Approach to Getting Everything You Want from Your Relationship

Khadeen & Devile Ellis

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Core Philosophy: Service+
Redefining the Blueprint+
Building a Firm Foundation+
Prioritizing Physical Intimacy+

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Question 1 of 5
According to Khadeen and Devale Ellis, what is the core mindset required for a successful relationship?
  • A. Focusing equally on what your partner can do for you and what you can do for them.
  • B. Prioritizing your partner's needs over your own and viewing marriage as a service-based industry.
  • C. Maintaining strict independence so that neither partner feels burdened by the other.
  • D. Ensuring that individual empowerment is always the primary focus before committing to a partner.
Question 2 of 5
Why do the authors argue that you must 'love marriage, not just a person'?
  • A. Because people will inevitably change, surprise, or disappoint you over time.
  • B. Because loving the institution of marriage makes it easier to ignore your partner's flaws.
  • C. Because societal expectations require couples to uphold the traditional image of marriage.
  • D. Because focusing on the concept of marriage naturally resolves individual personal problems.
Question 3 of 5
How did Khadeen and Devale handle the romantic 'blueprints' they inherited from their families?
  • A. They strictly followed the traditional gender roles their parents modeled to maintain stability.
  • B. They combined the best practices from both of their families to create a perfect hybrid model.
  • C. They had to unlearn many of their families' habits, such as needing to win every argument or hiding tensions from the public.
  • D. They adopted their families' methods of conflict resolution but rejected their financial strategies.
Question 4 of 5
What major realization helped the Ellises overcome the resentment they felt early in their marriage when finances were tight?
  • A. They realized they needed to borrow money from their families to relieve the immediate stress.
  • B. They recognized the need to let go of internalized ideas about traditional gender roles.
  • C. They accepted that Devale's NFL career was more important than Khadeen's freelance ambitions.
  • D. They decided to stop talking about their frustrations and just focus on working harder.
Question 5 of 5
How do the Ellises recommend couples handle mismatched sex drives and intimacy issues?
  • A. By accepting that sex will naturally fizzle out over time and focusing entirely on emotional connection.
  • B. By avoiding repetitive conversations about sex to prevent the lower-drive partner from feeling pressured.
  • C. By removing guilt from the conversation and getting comfortable discussing their needs and boundaries repeatedly.
  • D. By ensuring the partner with the higher sex drive suppresses their needs to maintain peace in the household.

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We Over Me Summary & Overview

We Over Me (2023) is the story of the podcasting-and-influencing power couple Devale and Khadeen Ellis – in their own words. With trademark disarming honesty, the Ellises lay bare the struggles and successes that have shaped them as a couple, and share the strategies that allow them to thrive as a partnership. 

Who Should Listen to We Over Me?

  • Single people looking for love that lasts
  • Couples who’ve lost sight of each other’s needs
  • Anyone who could do with a dose of unfiltered relationship advice

About the Author: Khadeen & Devile Ellis

Devale Ellis is a former NFL athlete turned actor. Khadeen Ellis is a makeup artist and content creator. Together, they host the phenomenally successful web series “The Ellises” and the podcast “Deadass with Khadeen and Devale.”

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