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The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD

Improve Trust, Intimacy, and Reliability

Melissa Orlov & Nancie Kohlenberger

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Question 1 of 7
According to the text, what are some of the positive traits or strengths that ADHD can introduce into a relationship?
  • A. Meticulous organization and strict adherence to routines.
  • B. Creativity, boundless energy, and spontaneity.
  • C. Unwavering emotional stability and predictable decision-making.
  • D. A natural ability to filter out distractions and prioritize effectively.
Question 2 of 7
How does the text describe the difference between how an ADHD brain and a non-ADHD brain process information?
  • A. The ADHD brain filters out too much information, while the non-ADHD brain captures every detail perfectly.
  • B. The ADHD brain struggles to apply 'filters,' receiving all information with equal priority, whereas the non-ADHD brain filters and prioritizes automatically.
  • C. Both brains process information identically, but the ADHD brain reacts with more emotional intensity.
  • D. The non-ADHD brain lives vividly in the present, while the ADHD brain constantly contemplates the future.
Question 3 of 7
What warning does the text give regarding the role of clear communication in an ADHD relationship?
  • A. It is a miracle cure that will eventually resolve all ADHD-related symptoms.
  • B. It should only be attempted when both partners are completely calm and free of distractions.
  • C. If you expect it to solve everything, you are more likely to give up on it, as clear communication doesn't always equate to agreement.
  • D. It is impossible to achieve unless the ADHD partner is medically treated for their symptoms.
Question 4 of 7
What is described as one of the most damaging beliefs or narratives that can take root in a relationship affected by ADHD?
  • A. The feeling that the non-ADHD partner must become a parental figure.
  • B. The belief that 'things will never change' and the relationship is hopeless.
  • C. The assumption that medication is the only way to manage ADHD.
  • D. The idea that spontaneous activities will fix underlying emotional issues.
Question 5 of 7
Why is it crucial for the non-ADHD partner to set personal boundaries and resist the urge to micromanage?
  • A. Because stepping in continuously relieves the pressure on the ADHD partner to manage their own symptoms, leading to imbalance and resentment.
  • B. Because the ADHD partner will immediately leave the relationship if they feel they are being controlled.
  • C. Because micromanaging exacerbates the ADHD partner's hyperfocus, causing them to completely ignore the relationship.
  • D. Because boundaries ensure that the non-ADHD partner takes on 100% of the household responsibilities efficiently.
Question 6 of 7
According to Arthur Aron's theory of 'self-expansion' mentioned in the text, how can couples reignite the spark in their relationship?
  • A. By establishing strict, predictable daily routines that eliminate surprises.
  • B. By engaging in new and challenging activities that push both partners out of their comfort zones.
  • C. By spending time apart to appreciate each other's absence.
  • D. By focusing exclusively on communicating about their past conflicts until they are resolved.
Question 7 of 7
What underlying fear often prevents couples dealing with ADHD from prioritizing time together to reconnect?
  • A. The fear that trying new activities will be too financially draining.
  • B. The worry that getting closer might indicate everything is alright, leading to complacency in addressing ADHD issues.
  • C. The anxiety that their non-ADHD friends will judge their relationship dynamics.
  • D. The concern that achieving a state of 'flow' will cause the ADHD partner to hyperfocus on the activity instead of the relationship.

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The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD Summary & Overview

The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD (2014) delves into the challenges many couples face when one or both partners have undiagnosed adult ADHD. An essential guide for couples seeking to strengthen their bond and navigate the complexities of ADHD in their relationships, it emphasizes the importance of understanding ADHD symptoms and offers strategies to enhance communication, trust, and intimacy.

Who Should Listen to The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD?

  • Couples seeking insight into how ADHD affects their relationship dynamics
  • Individuals diagnosed with adult ADHD aiming to improve their romantic partnerships
  • Counselors who want to expand their understanding of ADHD in intimate relationships

About the Author: Melissa Orlov & Nancie Kohlenberger

Melissa Orlov, the brain behind ADHDmarriage.com, is a renowned authority on the interplay between ADHD and adult relationships. She's penned two acclaimed books, The ADHD Effect on Marriage and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD.

Nancie Kohlenberger is a seasoned professional from Orlov’s psychotherapy practice. With over 15 years in the field and personal experience with ADHD, Kohlenberger brings an invaluable perspective to their collaborative work.

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