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Deeper Dating

How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy

Ken Page

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Question 1 of 7
How does the author suggest you identify your 'Core Gifts'?
  • A. By taking personality tests to find your most dominant traits.
  • B. By exploring the experiences that bring you the greatest joy as well as pain or shame.
  • C. By asking your closest friends and family what they like most about you.
  • D. By observing which of your traits receive the most compliments from romantic partners.
Question 2 of 7
According to the book, what defines an 'attraction of deprivation'?
  • A. An attraction to someone who shares your exact hobbies but lacks emotional depth.
  • B. An intense physical attraction that fades quickly after the first few dates.
  • C. An attraction to people who diminish your Core Gifts or are emotionally unavailable.
  • D. An attraction based on mutual financial or social struggles rather than genuine love.
Question 3 of 7
What does the author recommend doing instead of following the popular dating advice to 'play it cool'?
  • A. Wait for the other person to initiate contact to ensure they are genuinely interested.
  • B. Express your genuine interest in the person and openly share your passions.
  • C. Create an aura of mystery by only revealing personal details after several dates.
  • D. Overwhelm your date with grand romantic gestures to prove your commitment early on.
Question 4 of 7
Why does the author recommend looking for a romantic partner through your close friends and family?
  • A. They can objectively evaluate a potential partner's financial and social status.
  • B. They are less likely to judge you if the relationship doesn't work out.
  • C. They already understand and cherish your authentic self, acting as an excellent filter.
  • D. They can mediate conflicts during the early, vulnerable stages of a new relationship.
Question 5 of 7
What is the 'Wave of Distancing' described in the book?
  • A. A natural phase where couples decide to take a break to evaluate their relationship.
  • B. A modern dating trend where people ghost their partners instead of communicating.
  • C. A subconscious defense mechanism where you suddenly lose affection for or find flaws in a good partner.
  • D. A technique used to create healthy boundaries in the early stages of dating.
Question 6 of 7
When evaluating potential partners on an 'attraction scale' of 1 to 10, where does the author suggest you focus for lasting love?
  • A. The top of the scale (the 10s), because explosive chemistry is required for long-term passion.
  • B. The bottom of the scale (the 1s and 2s), because physical attraction distracts from emotional connection.
  • C. The middle of the scale, because mild but healthy attractions can be nurtured into passionate love.
  • D. The entire scale equally, because love is unpredictable and can be found anywhere.
Question 7 of 7
According to the book's actionable advice, how should you approach using dating apps?
  • A. Cast a wide net by swiping right on as many profiles as possible to increase your odds.
  • B. Focus solely on users who match your ideal physical preferences to ensure a baseline of attraction.
  • C. Keep your profile brief and vague so that you have more to talk about on the first date.
  • D. Look for people whose passions resonate with yours, and avoid rushing back to the app once you meet someone worthwhile.

Deeper Dating — Full Chapter Overview

Deeper Dating Summary & Overview

Deeper Dating (2014) is a roadmap to intimacy and loving relationships. It breaks down how looking inward can help us identify the kinds of people we’ll connect with most deeply, and shares tools for finding these people and fostering relationships that will inspire and fulfill us.

Who Should Listen to Deeper Dating?

  • Singles frustrated by popular dating advice
  • Couples looking to strengthen their bonds
  • Those who want to understand attraction and relationships

About the Author: Ken Page

KEN PAGE, LCSW, is a renowned psychotherapist, and a leading voice of hope and wisdom for everyone seeking to find and cultivate healthy, lasting love. He is the host of The Deeper Dating Podcast, the co-founder of Deeperdating.com; and the author of Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy.

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