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The science of magical connections

Rom and Ori Brafman

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Question 1 of 9
What did neuroscientists observe in the brain scans of people who had experienced a romantic 'click'?
  • A. High activity in areas associated with logic, reasoning, and long-term planning.
  • B. A state of euphoria with brain activity levels similar to those triggered by cocaine.
  • C. Decreased activity in the amygdala, drastically reducing feelings of fear and anxiety.
  • D. A unique synchronization of brain waves between the two individuals.
Question 2 of 9
According to psychological studies on marriage, how do couples who experienced 'love at first sight' compare to those who had a traditional courtship?
  • A. They are more likely to divorce within the first ten years due to a lack of foundational friendship.
  • B. They tend to share significantly more hobbies and interests over the course of their lives.
  • C. They maintain higher levels of passion even after more than two decades of marriage.
  • D. They experience fewer conflicts and arguments throughout the duration of their marriage.
Question 3 of 9
Why do teams that 'click,' such as a well-attuned string quartet, generally outperform other teams?
  • A. They focus their discussions on the task at hand rather than asserting their individual egos during conflicts.
  • B. They spend significantly more time practicing together than less cohesive teams.
  • C. They rely strictly on non-verbal communication to avoid any interpersonal disagreements.
  • D. They naturally share the exact same opinions, eliminating the need for discussion.
Question 4 of 9
Why did a hostage negotiator share the story of his mother's death with a captor?
  • A. To distract the captor long enough for a tactical team to enter the building.
  • B. To demonstrate his authority and psychological dominance over the situation.
  • C. To prove to the captor that everyone experiences unfair hardships in life.
  • D. To deliberately make himself vulnerable, signaling trust and prompting the captor to open up.
Question 5 of 9
What does the police academy cadet study demonstrate about social bonding?
  • A. Shared personal interests are the strongest foundation for long-term friendships.
  • B. Physical proximity, such as being assigned adjacent seats, is a highly accurate predictor of social bonding.
  • C. Cadets with similar personality types naturally gravitate toward one another.
  • D. Shared adversity during training is the only way to form unbreakable bonds.
Question 6 of 9
How does a performer in a 'flow state' successfully spread their energy and captivate an audience?
  • A. By rigorously sticking to a rehearsed script regardless of the audience's reactions.
  • B. By relying on the audience's mirror neurons, which create a neurological contagion of the performer's verve.
  • C. By using loud volume and exaggerated physical gestures to command absolute attention.
  • D. By ensuring the performance is technically flawless, even without emotional engagement.
Question 7 of 9
Why are people generally more willing to connect with and help those who are similar to them, such as someone with the same name?
  • A. They subconsciously view people with shared traits as members of their 'in-group' or family.
  • B. They believe similar people are more likely to return the favor in the future.
  • C. They assume people with similar traits share their exact level of financial success.
  • D. They feel a sense of competition and want to impress people who reflect their own image.
Question 8 of 9
How does shared adversity, such as enduring the intense heat of a Native American sweat lodge, facilitate clicking?
  • A. It forces individuals to rely strictly on their public personas to maintain social order.
  • B. It breaks down emotional barriers and public personas, allowing people to make themselves vulnerable.
  • C. It creates a competitive environment where individuals bond by trying to outlast one another.
  • D. It distracts people from their personal problems, making them more agreeable in conversation.
Question 9 of 9
What characterizes a 'social chameleon' who is highly prone to clicking with others?
  • A. They possess a dominant personality that naturally forces others to adapt to their mood.
  • B. They strictly maintain their authentic self and refuse to alter their behavior for others.
  • C. They are highly sensitive to social contexts and adept at adjusting their self-presentation to the needs of others.
  • D. They rely primarily on their physical attractiveness to put people at ease.

Click — Full Chapter Overview

Click Summary & Overview

Click (2010) delves into the miraculous topic of quick-set intimacy and explores what’s at work when we’re instantly drawn to some person or thing. It examines how and why clicking makes our life more meaningful and outlines the (very ordinary) factors that can make such “magical” connections more likely.

Who Should Listen to Click?

  • Anyone who has always wondered about the hidden dynamics of love at first sight
  • Anyone striving to establish more meaningful relationships in their everyday life
  • Anyone working with teams and trying to enable them to perform better

About the Author: Rom and Ori Brafman

Together, brothers Ori and Rom Brafman have authored two New York Times bestsellers – Sway and Click. When not writing, Ori Brafman is an organizational business consultant and the co-founder of a network fostering peace and development projects. Psychologist Rom Brafman won awards for excellence in teaching and promoting positive human growth. He has a private practice in Palo Alto.

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