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13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don't Do

Healthy Habits for Love's Longevity

Amy Morin

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Question 1 of 6
According to the text, what happens in a relationship when one partner focuses on their own personal growth and alters their behavior, even if the other partner isn't actively working on themselves?
  • A. The relationship will inevitably end because the partners will grow apart.
  • B. The other partner will instinctively adjust in response, much like partners in a dance.
  • C. The other partner will become resentful and defensive about being left behind.
  • D. The relationship's dynamic will remain completely unchanged until both go to therapy.
Question 2 of 6
How did Maria successfully bridge the emotional gap that had developed between her and her husband Luis over the decades?
  • A. By directly scolding him for his emotional absence and demanding they attend couples counseling.
  • B. By accepting that their relationship had run its course now that their children had moved out.
  • C. By planning enjoyable activities to create a natural context for deeper, more vulnerable interactions.
  • D. By writing him a long letter detailing all of her resentments from the past 30 years.
Question 3 of 6
When addressing difficult issues in a relationship, which communication strategy does the text recommend to avoid triggering defensiveness?
  • A. Using 'I feel' statements and validating your partner's perspective even when you disagree.
  • B. Pointing out your partner's flaws directly so they know exactly what to fix.
  • C. Refusing to postpone heated discussions so that the issue is resolved immediately.
  • D. Waiting until your partner brings up the issue first to ensure they are ready to talk.
Question 4 of 6
What does the text suggest is the most important step AFTER a partner reveals a long-held secret?
  • A. Expecting the immediate restoration of intimacy now that the truth is out.
  • B. Taking responsibility through concrete actions, such as committing to future transparency.
  • C. Punishing the partner by keeping a secret of your own to balance the relationship.
  • D. Avoiding any further discussion about the secret to prevent reopening old wounds.
Question 5 of 6
How should couples handle the concepts of secrecy and privacy, according to the text?
  • A. Couples should adopt a strict policy of zero privacy to ensure complete trust.
  • B. Couples should follow a universal standard of privacy recommended by relationship therapists.
  • C. Couples should transparently discuss and define their own comfortable boundaries around what is kept private versus shared.
  • D. Couples should keep small secrets to protect each other from unnecessary anxiety and judgment.
Question 6 of 6
Why do partners often start focusing on each other's flaws as the relationship progresses over the years?
  • A. Because the euphoric neurochemicals of early romance fade, and tolerance makes the stable love seem dull.
  • B. Because people generally become more incompatible as they age and their core values change.
  • C. Because the stress of raising children permanently alters the brain's ability to produce oxytocin.
  • D. Because couples stop arguing, which leads to a lack of passion and an increase in boredom.

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13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don't Do Summary & Overview

13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don’t Do (2023) identifies thirteen common pitfalls that couples should avoid in order to nurture healthier and more resilient relationships. It provides concrete advice for improving communication, managing conflict, and ultimately fostering stronger mental fortitude – both individually and as a team.

Who Should Listen to 13 Things Mentally Strong Couples Don't Do?

  • Couples seeking to improve their communication and resolve conflicts
  • People looking for advice on nurturing healthy, secure relationships
  • Individuals interested in building mental resilience and fortitude

About the Author: Amy Morin

Amy Morin is a licensed clinical social worker, psychology instructor, and psychotherapist who delivered one of the most popular TED Talks of all time, “The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong”, which has amassed over 22 million views. She also hosts the “Mentally Stronger With Therapist Amy Morin” podcast and has penned the bestselling book 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do, which is being translated into over 40 languages.

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