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Marry Him

The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough

Lori Gottlieb

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The Dating Trap+
Maximizers vs. Satisficers+
The Reality of Aging+
What Actually Matters+
Building Lasting Love+

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Question 1 of 6
What is the primary difference between a 'maximizer' and a 'satisficer' according to social scientist Barry Schwarz?
  • A. Maximizers settle for the first option they find, while satisficers evaluate every possible option before deciding.
  • B. Maximizers search endlessly for the absolute best option, while satisficers stop searching once they find an option that meets their acceptable standard.
  • C. Maximizers focus purely on a partner's wealth and status, while satisficers prioritize deep emotional connection.
  • D. Maximizers rely entirely on romantic intuition, while satisficers rely on logical checklists.
Question 2 of 6
Why does Gottlieb argue that the dating field becomes less level for heterosexual women as they get older?
  • A. Older women tend to become overly focused on their careers and naturally lose interest in romantic relationships.
  • B. Most dating apps and matchmaking services refuse to cater to women over the age of 35.
  • C. Men often seek younger partners, and statistically, there are millions more single women than single men over the age of 35.
  • D. Older women typically raise their standards to an unattainable level, effectively alienating all potential partners.
Question 3 of 6
What did Gottlieb discover about couples who experienced 'white-hot passion' and 'fireworks' at the beginning of their relationship compared to those who didn't?
  • A. Couples with initial passion were significantly more likely to stay married long-term.
  • B. Couples who lacked initial passion usually ended up divorcing within the first five years.
  • C. There was no consistent difference in long-term happiness between those who felt initial sparks and those who didn't.
  • D. Couples who started with intense chemistry were much more likely to experience infidelity later on.
Question 4 of 6
According to professional matchmakers and relationship coaches cited in the book, which of the following should be prioritized when looking for a long-term partner?
  • A. Shared hobbies and personal interests so you can spend all your free time together.
  • B. Physical attractiveness and undeniable chemistry on the very first date.
  • C. Shared values, good character, and a willingness to commit.
  • D. High social status and a perfectly matching personality type.
Question 5 of 6
What does Gottlieb consider 'astoundingly naive' about her decision to have a child on her own at age 37?
  • A. She believed that having a child would instantly make her more attractive to younger, family-oriented men.
  • B. She thought she could easily resume dating, deeply underestimating the time constraints of single motherhood and the changing dating pool.
  • C. She assumed that her child would naturally fulfill all of her emotional needs, eliminating her desire for a romantic partner.
  • D. She expected that the sperm donor would eventually want to be involved in the child's life and become her partner.
Question 6 of 6
How does the economic concept of 'sunk costs' negatively affect people in the dating market, according to the text?
  • A. It makes people refuse to compromise because they feel they have already invested too much time and emotional energy into their search.
  • B. It causes individuals to spend exorbitant amounts of money on dating apps and matchmakers, leading to severe financial stress.
  • C. It encourages people to settle for the very first person they date in order to avoid wasting any more time.
  • D. It leads people to completely abandon dating and focus solely on building their financial independence.

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Marry Him Summary & Overview

Marry Him (2011) is an honest, open and humorous quest for what it means to find the perfect man. It confronts common barriers to finding a partner, like chasing sparks over stability and the never-ending checklist of ideal qualities, and makes a case for rethinking what is important in a partner, drawing on scientific wisdom and often hilarious personal anecdotes along the way.

Who Should Listen to Marry Him?

  • Women who are still looking for the perfect man
  • Students of love and what it means to have a fulfilling relationship
  • Anyone interested in women's personal journeys and discoveries

About the Author: Lori Gottlieb

Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist, bestselling author, podcast co-host and columnist. Her book Maybe You Should Talk to Someone (2019) sold over a million copies and is being developed into a TV series at the time of writing.  Gottlieb's 2019 Ted Talk, "How changing your story can change your life", was ranked in the top 10 most watched talks of that year. Marry Him is her third book. 

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