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In Sheep’s Clothing

Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People

George Simon Jr.

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Question 1 of 7
According to the text, what is the primary difference between how normal people fight for their needs and how manipulators fight?
  • A. Manipulators fight aggressively without any regard for other people's feelings or rights because they have an impaired conscience.
  • B. Manipulators only fight when they are provoked or feel deeply insecure about their social standing.
  • C. Normal people use physical confrontation, while manipulators rely solely on emotional appeals.
  • D. Normal people avoid conflict entirely, whereas manipulators actively seek out arguments to release repressed anger.
Question 2 of 7
How does the author distinguish 'covert aggression' from 'passive-aggression'?
  • A. Covert aggression involves physical violence, while passive-aggression is strictly verbal.
  • B. Passive-aggressives fight by remaining inactive, whereas covert aggressives use active, calculated, and underhanded methods.
  • C. Passive-aggression is used by overt manipulators, while covert aggression is only used by neurotics.
  • D. Covert aggression is always unconscious, whereas passive-aggression is a deliberate strategy to ruin reputations.
Question 3 of 7
Why does the author argue that Sigmund Freud’s theories on neurosis are often misapplied to modern manipulators?
  • A. Freud believed that humans are inherently evil, which contradicts the modern view that manipulators can be rehabilitated.
  • B. Freud's theories suggest aggressive behavior stems from repressed needs, but modern manipulators act out of a desire to win rather than repression.
  • C. Freud focused entirely on covert aggression, ignoring the overt aggression that is more common in today's permissive society.
  • D. Freud argued that society should be more permissive, which is exactly what allows modern manipulators to thrive.
Question 4 of 7
What is identified as the crucial first step to stopping a manipulator from ruining your life?
  • A. Publicly exposing their behavior to friends and family to build a support network.
  • B. Recognizing when you are making too many excuses for their bad behavior.
  • C. Analyzing their childhood trauma to understand the root cause of their aggression.
  • D. Responding to their aggression with equal or greater aggressive tactics.
Question 5 of 7
When confronting a manipulator, what approach should you take regarding their actions and intentions?
  • A. Focus entirely on understanding their underlying intentions and mental state to show empathy.
  • B. Ask open-ended questions to give them space to explain why they feel the way they do.
  • C. Focus strictly on their harmful actions rather than getting distracted by their intentions or mental state.
  • D. Use sarcasm and subtle threats to show them that you understand their manipulative game.
Question 6 of 7
Why does the author suggest finding a 'win-win' solution when resolving a conflict with a manipulator?
  • A. Because manipulators ultimately want to win, giving them something they want maximizes the chances of resolving the conflict.
  • B. Because manipulators are deeply insecure and need to feel validated by a mutual victory.
  • C. Because it forces the manipulator to acknowledge your feelings and develop empathy.
  • D. Because covert aggressives will only agree to a compromise if they can publicly claim all the credit.
Question 7 of 7
Why is knowing your own character flaws, such as low self-esteem or emotional dependency, critical to defeating a manipulator?
  • A. It allows you to explain to the manipulator why their actions are hurting you so deeply.
  • B. Manipulators excel at identifying and exploiting these specific vulnerabilities to maintain control.
  • C. It helps you realize that you are actually to blame for the manipulator's aggressive behavior.
  • D. It proves to the manipulator that you are self-aware, which will intimidate them into backing down.

In Sheep’s Clothing — Full Chapter Overview

In Sheep’s Clothing Summary & Overview

In Sheep’s Clothing (1996) reveals the aggressive, undercover agenda of manipulative individuals, whose covert tactics would otherwise remain hidden. These blinks offers you tools to become aware of, prepare for and deal with the tricks used by manipulative colleagues, family members and friends.

Who Should Listen to In Sheep’s Clothing?

  • People who are overly anxious and fearful of social rejection
  • People who believe they might be in a relationship with a manipulator
  • People who want to learn how to fight back against manipulators

About the Author: George Simon Jr.

George Simon Jr., PhD is a clinical psychologist from Texas who has spent the last 30 years studying the behavior of manipulative personalities and counselling their victims. He is also the author of Character Disturbance: the Phenomenon of Our Age (2011).

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