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How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids

Strategies for Staying Together as Your Family Expands

Jancee Dunn

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Financial Tension+
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Question 1 of 7
According to the text, what is a major reason nearly seventy percent of couples say their relationship takes a hit after having a child?
  • A. The financial burden of childcare and new expenses.
  • B. The invisible additional workload that often falls squarely on mothers.
  • C. The lack of support from extended family members and friends.
  • D. The sudden drop in oxytocin levels for both parents.
Question 2 of 7
When couples argue, what does the text identify as the 'worst offender' that erodes the foundation of respect in a relationship?
  • A. Stonewalling
  • B. Defensiveness
  • C. Criticism
  • D. Contempt
Question 3 of 7
What is the book's stance on parents arguing in front of their children?
  • A. It is highly damaging and will likely lead to the children needing therapy.
  • B. It should be strictly avoided to maintain the illusion of a perfect partnership.
  • C. It is okay and can teach children about healthy conflict, provided the parents lovingly repair afterward.
  • D. It is only acceptable if the argument is about household chores and not personal attacks.
Question 4 of 7
Which strategy does the text suggest to increase a partner's buy-in when dividing household chores?
  • A. Frame the tasks as the partner 'helping out' the primary caregiver.
  • B. Create a rigid, rotating schedule so neither partner gets stuck with the same tasks.
  • C. Let the partner choose which specific tasks they want to take on.
  • D. Assign them the most difficult tasks first to build their caregiving muscles.
Question 5 of 7
What is the recommended approach for handling a child's chores and their allowance?
  • A. Tie them together so children learn the value of hard work.
  • B. Unbundle them, because chores teach contribution while money teaches budgeting.
  • C. Pay children only for extra chores outside their normal daily responsibilities.
  • D. Avoid giving an allowance until the child is old enough to complete chores without being asked.
Question 6 of 7
How should couples handle finances if one partner claims they are 'not good with numbers'?
  • A. The partner who is better with numbers should take full control of the budget to avoid mistakes.
  • B. Both partners must remain equally engaged in the money-management process, regardless of natural ability.
  • C. The couple should hire a financial advisor to mediate their budgeting conversations.
  • D. The partner who struggles with numbers should only manage their own discretionary spending.
Question 7 of 7
What advice does the text offer for couples struggling to regain their sexual intimacy after having kids?
  • A. Wait until both partners feel completely rested and naturally 'ready' before attempting intimacy.
  • B. Schedule sex on the calendar at least twice a week to force the habit.
  • C. Take the pressure off by making out for ten minutes with no expectations or agenda.
  • D. Focus entirely on romantic date nights outside the house to reignite the initial spark.

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How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids Summary & Overview

How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids (2017) explores the strain that parenthood places on modern marriages, especially the imbalance of domestic labor and emotional load. It weaves together personal anecdotes, expert advice, and ample humor to offer practical strategies for better navigating marital conflict and resentment. 

Who Should Listen to How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids?

  • New parents navigating their “new” relationship 
  • Expecting parents preparing for the changes ahead 
  • Therapists or counselors supporting young families 

About the Author: Jancee Dunn

Jancee Dunn is a journalist and best-selling author known for her ability to combine candid, humorous, personal storytelling with research-backed insight. Dunn formerly wrote for Rolling Stone and currently writes The New York Times' Well column. Her previous books include Hot and Bothered, Why Is My Mother Getting a Tattoo?, and But Enough About Me. 

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